The Miracle of Love

Recently I have been studying A Course in Miracles. I felt an urge to share some of what I have learned in a specific topic; that of relationships. This is my Truth and if what I have said here does not touch you than please disregard it. Relationships are assignments meaning that no meetings are accidental or coincidental. “Those who are to meet, will meet, because together they have the potential for a holy relationship.” (A Course in Miracles) What we call a “special relationship” is an illusion for these relationships are based in fear and guilt. They are manufactures of what we seek to rectify. Since only love is real, to set aside one over others is a lie of the ego. The purpose of a holy relationship is to heal our self-loathing, knowing that healing is why we are together and trusting that the relationship will continuously heal through mutual forgiveness. To be holy is to be a friend. Any relationship can shift to holiness by changing our minds. This releases others to be who they are and releases ourselves to see their inherent beauty. Our egos reflect our past wounds. Pure love asks for nothing but peace because peace comes from us (from within). The other person in the relationship is here to provide the perfect lesson to be learned form that person. We choose how they show up in our lives just as they choose how we show up in theirs. In every moment we have the chance to change our past and reprogram the future by being Present. A spiritual relationship is authentic because the two have recognized they were brought together for real work (to love) and are willing to give and accept rigorous honesty and forgiveness. These relationships are just like any other except that each person understands that they are participating in a healing of themselves and each other. Anger is energy. Its repression is unhealthy; however its expression is the key. Expressed anger from love is of God. Only what we have not given is lacking in any situation. Our barriers to love are consciously chosen by us because we create what we defend against. In other words, what we resist persists. We are never angry for the reasons we think we are. When we allow the past to infiltrate the present, we punish others for what was done by someone else. This is fear and not of love. And since only love is real and what isn’t love isn’t real, our fears are a hallucination. We also tend not to see others as they are now, in the Present. We see their “shadow figures” and judge them as such. But judgment is of fear and therefore not real. We decide what we want to see before we see it. It is not accident that at first, the other person appears to be perfect. It is in those first moments that we truly see them as they really are. And then we allow ego to set in. We allow our past to creep into our perceptions which destroy our ability to love. The fact still remains that it is our problem, not theirs. The meaning of forgiveness is to consciously focus on loving thoughts and letting go of fearful ones. This is a process. Forgiveness is selective remembering; to focus on love only. It is to enter into all relationships without the temptation to judge and find fault. Forgiveness is a decision to see others as they are right Now. Forgiveness is discernment between what is real (love) and what is unreal (fear). Not be too hard on yourself. The ego will try to make you feel bad. I know because mine loves to attack me. If you are reading this, then it is your time to gain this knowledge and I am blessed to have been the conduit for you. Everything is right on time. Namaste